From Project BFF HQ, Terri and Manya riff about making friends as an adult. It doesn't just feel difficult, it absolutely can be challenging.
By the time we are adults our lives are more complex--families, children, work and career exceptions all take time and can make it harder to have time to devote to friendships. In addition, life just has a way of filtering people in and out of our lives as well, such as changes in politic beliefs, successes or failures (yours or your friends'), moving, strokes of luck, both good and bad, and even death.
It's estimated that it takes more than 200 hours of time together for someone to become a good friend. When you consider that the average American spends just 41 minutes a day socializing.
The pandemic has changed how some of us think about friends and friendships. With hours of isolation early in the podcast, we had some hard decisions to make about how to spend the time we did spend socializing, which friends and family to prioritize as we struggled with what was going on in the world around us.
Resources we talk about:
Why Making Friends in Midlife Is So Hard, by Katharine Smyth
How Many Hours Does it Take to Make a Friend? by Jeffrey Hall
It's Your Friends Who Break Your Heart, by Jennifer Senior
The Friendship Report, from Snapchat
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